Well, it's been a while since I posted, and longer since I had a thread. While so many of you are still struggling with the hurtful and destructive aspects of MLC behaviour I wanted to share some of the lighter moments with you, which shows how crazy they can remain.
My xh left me in 2005 and was a mean one, and for a long time I was a quivering wreck. I got better!
Then in 2013 he started suing me (three years post divorce). Just before Christmas this year (having comprehensively p.o'd his lovely children (all grown up and flourishing)) I got a long meandering and slightly threatening email threatening to re-start the legal action, and trashing my legal advisers. And another on January 2nd. It was sooooooo ludicrous that I laughed out loud, and such an obvious bid for attention.
I amiably replied 'Happy New year' and hoped he was well and happy, but had nothing to say on the legal issues (on my lawyer's advice) And went away for the weekend.
I cam back to this. I kid you not. Nothing I have written to him could reasonably be interpreted to mean this
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In our most recent non-financial/legal exchange(23-27 August 2013 - worth another look!), you made it clear that (roughly) you want me in your bed or out of your life. I think that's deplorable, and I continue to want something in between (for our children's sake as well as for ours). But I respect your feelings and your decision to demand all or nothing at all. I guess if you ever change your mind, you'll get back to me.
I laughed for about ten minutes- the poor old thing wants attention after all this time (he got married last year btw!)
This is the gist of my reply
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"you want me in your bed or out of your life. " ???? It certainly wasn't my intention to convey that particular alternative, although it made me laugh out loud when I read it today. As well as rendering me temporarily wordess, which is rare.
I had no idea that your head was in that particular blind alley!
It is true that I only want relationships (by which I mean family and friends as well as lovers) with people who are kind, loving and fun. Otherwise not interested, because I don't have to be.
If you consider my behaviour deplorable you might need to think about getting out more, but I am rather enjoying being thought badly behaved.
