I think you are doing the right thing for yourself. I took some free advice and as the time comes I still have some questions.
Like now, H wants to take his 401k to pay off bills, cars, etc. and I don't know if that would be a good choice for me at all. At the end, it may hurt me more then help. I have 50% of his 401K, if we pay off all what we own, I will have none of that and a lot of our debt is his, for the family and not mine alone.
He wants to sell the house, but I told him I want to keep it. H then will probably want some deal as I need to buy his part from him. It is all math, but it could easily play against him in court since he makes a lot more money then I do.
This whole deal about the finances is painful. It's something we don't want to deal with, but it's necessary and the more info you have the better you will be.
Hope you get some good help there. And hopefully you won't need to get to this point to need all this. But who knows, better prepared then surprised. You are doing the right thing here, good luck to you.
