I am honestly torn with this, as I do the same thing as your H. I am very selective when I will pick up an incoming phone call from W. I struggle with how important it is to my daughter, who should be the focus.
We have a 50/50 split as well, week on week off. W phones, almost every single day to speak with D. I feel it pulls away from MY time with my daughter. Wife's calls usually land during dinner, play time, or even events we go to. It is never a time that we are sitting around thinking, "hey, there is nothing for us to do but twiddle our thumbs and hope for a phone call". We are busy people. I often reverse the role and ask daughter if she would like to phone her mom. Rarely does she choose to make a call to her mom, not that she doesn't love her very deeply, but more because she is 8 years old. She wants to play and be active, not have phone conversations. The way I see it is, WIFE chose to divorce and become a part time parent, where as I want ever second of my child's time that I am able to share with her. I feel that Wife phones to shed her own guilt, rather than it being a positive interaction for daughter. Granted your sitch and mine are a little different, as you and I are both the ones left behind for another persons choices, but perhaps your H has similar feelings to mine?
