It's habbits and displine that gets us where we need to go.
I had adopted plenty that were not good for me, at h request because they worked for him. I know what to do and how to I need to form habbits.
I loved grans cheese less tunel thing, it's true. We fall into the damn tunnel like its a rabbit hole. We cannot see it, until, we think how the he!! What the he!! Just happened.
Then we see it a bit earlier, but to do a u turn just ends messy so we think it's failed. The we start to think and second guess it, wait tunnel no yes no perhaps.... Then crapola it's a tunnel.
Like today I side stepped something, I did not cheese less tunnel and lie down door mat style nor get into the scarcatsic tunnel nor the screaming loud aggressive tunnel.
I placed the no Blame right out there by refusing to pick it up. I stated not my decision not my Blame, not my problem. I placed ownership back where it belonged. I short circuited the validation bit but next time.
It will get easier. As it seems atm ever second person wants to test me and push my bounderies. I'm getting tons of practice.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26