Still trying to decide whether I'll send a birthday text to my H tomorrow. H didn't text over the holidays, but I didn't expect him to. Probably not a deal breaker either way.

I know I've turned a few of you on to the Headspace mindfulness app. I also have he book by the same name/author. It's a useful companion. Interestingly the author first came to meditation as an 11yo, when his mum turned to meditation during a messy divorce.

Anyway, I came across a passage the other day that I wanted to share with you as it seems relevant to our work here. The set up is that the author is recalling a story his Tibetan teacher once told him. I've substituted some DB words for effect. See if you can pick which ones ;-)

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“Imagine every day you have to walk to work." ..."Toward the end of this street there is a very big hole [substitute:cheese less tunnel]"... “[Every] day you go down the same street and walk straight into the [cheese less tunnel]. You don’t mean to do it, it’s just that you’ve got so used to following that particular path...that you do it without even thinking.” ... “Now...when you start to meditate it’s like you wake up and become more aware of what’s going on around you.” ... “[At] first you just see the [cheese less tunnel], but the habit of walking down that part of the street is so strong that you can’t help but walk straight into it” ... “But...if you continue meditating, you’ll begin to see the [cheese less tunnel] much earlier and be able to take some evasive action. At first you may try to go around the edge and fall in anyway. This is part of the process. But eventually, with practice, you’ll see it with such clarity that you’ll simply walk around it and continue on your way.”

Excerpt From: Puddicombe, Andy. “Get Some Headspace.” St. Martin’s Griffin. iBooks.


H 37 Me 36
Together 15 years
Married 5 years
No kids
BD Apr 2014
H moved out 2 Jun 2014