Have u read my sitch? I did all the wrong things. I wanted to physically hurt my h of 20 yrs. job, sandi2, and the other wonderful people on here thought I was gonna end up in jail. My ex was a cop and 6ft tall....I am 5ft. I tried to hurt him, we actually fought, well I did. I unfortunately did not find this board until we were almost divorced. He had already filed and pushed it thru quickly. We were sep, and divorced in under 3 mths. I am telling u this because I, like u, didn't have to work. I thankfully got a part time job just before All this hit. We had just consolidated all our bills, so I know he wasn't thinking of leaving. Oh don't get me wrong, he was in crisis and cheating but but trying to live both lives until he got caught.......which he did. Gwen, mine was quick just like urs, so I so know how u feel. My mom had just passed away three weeks before bomb. I litterly came home on lunch, and he was painting our home. We hugged, he was talking on the phone to a friend and told them he had to hang up cause I was home and he wanted to spend time with me. We walked upstairs, his phone rang, he wouldn't answer, which was u like him. I questioned him and he started crying saying he wanted a divorce......not separate, he wanted out. I was floored. Very unexpected. The crying confused me. He moved out a few days later and stood in the doorway and cried again. He tested the waters with me a few times but I was so angry I didn't do the things I should of. I was scared to death financially. GOD pulled me thru all that and he will u too, just lean on him. When I tell u that I didn't think I wAs gonna survive, I truly didn't. I lost it all. My mom, my home, my h and eventually my only son,18 , went to live with h. I litterly thought I would die but I made it and u will to. I was the most co dependent person in the world. Scared to pieces. GOD never left my side. And these wonderful people on this board didn't either. It's been 6 yrs and I am doing great as far as ex is concerned. Now my son is another story, it as been very hard on me. Gwen I truly believe they Are miserable inside. My ex was one of the meanest ones around. He married a girl 26 and to this day, if they see me out, she will try to make sure she waves at me if she has to run across the st to do it,,,,,which she did. I don't Talk or have contact with either and haven't in a very long time but I am obviously a part of their lives for them to act such a way lol. They are ashamed and miserable and they want us to be as well. The best thing you can do is show them how successful and great u can be as a person and a mother. Sounds like u are on ur way already. Let him have his miserable life and show him ur fine.....fake it till u make it as they say. Sry so long, just wanted u to know that u aren't crazy and neither was I. You didn't imagine ur marriage to a great h and neither did I. Lots of hugs and Prayers.
