Thank you again for the responses! Everything you had to say was pretty on point with my IC as well and it really helps to hear from someone who has been in a similar situation. Your support and guidance means a lot. I hope you know that!
I'm feeling okay today. Cried a few times but managed to get out of the house and put one foot in front of the other.
I actually had my first DB session yesterday and my coach even mentioned that while they do not encourage divorce, maybe this is a blessing in disguise. She mentioned that my H sounded impulsive, unstable, and even narcissistic. And that while people can change, he would have to in order for us to have a healthy M. This added a new perspective to the mix. I expected her to give me advice on how to save my marriage and better myself, but with her concerns it allowed me to see through my desperation for a moment and realize maybe I'm not the problem, and maybe some of the issues we had were bc of H's tendencies. Interesting.
How are you holding up after your D? Still have bad days?
Me 26 ; H 26 S 8 Married less than a year Bomb 9/15/14 H moves out 9/15/14 H Files 11/21/14 Served D papers 12/31/14
