Sandi2: I also want to thank you for your post. I found an answer to my own dilemma in it and posted it on my thread.
Regarding the schedule, I'm entirely with Wonka. This constant renegotiation is like having no schedule, it introduces uncertainty for S11 and a lot of tension between the tow of you. Also, keep it simple with a permanent schedule (same thing every week), not something done by the week to fit some ad hoc plans. When I have plans during my week with the kids (very rare), I get a babysitter, like in the old days. I don't bother W with changes and adjustments. She does the same.
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