She doesn't explicitly tell me it's my fault for the A, but it was my fault for making her vulnerable to the A, as if she could have done absolutely nothing to keep it from progressing as far as it did.
You are still pulling out the old score board. Accept your part of the breakdown in the M! You did not fill her EN, and as her H you are suppose to at least try. When women say they aren't happy in their M. It usually means her EN are being ignored. Remember becoming complacent?
It was so long for me that I felt dead inside. I might as well have been walking across the Saharia and met a man who was handing me a tall glass of sweet ice tea. I didn't just jump into an A with him. We started talking and he made me feel special, and good about myself. But since I was already vulnerable to what he was providing (instead of my H), I did not want to stop it. I was already hooked.
Have you actually told her anything you accepted as being your fault? Apparently, you have trouble with admitting it to yourself.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
