I think we are all drained after the holidays. It is stressful and just the anticipation is an energy drain.

One really good thing in all of this is my girls and I have become even closer. I was the child of divorce and was also adopted. They have seen firsthand all the weird family ties in my life and how much I have embraced all the people in my life through the years. I think that's why I was a stay at home mom. I wanted them to have a traditional, more stable family. H was completely supportive. We moved quite a bit for his career and each time we had to start over with new friends, schools, etc. At the time I thought H was being ambitious and clever to be willing to switch companies. In retrospect I wonder if he was just restless.

One dilemma for me having girls is that I don't want to quelch their feelings. They need to feel strong as women and not accept this kind of disrespect. We don't dwell but let's just say I am trying very hard to instill a sense of independence for the three of us.

Try to get some rest and take care of yourself this week. Hope you are feeling full of energy soon. smile


M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters
BD: 5/14
Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW
D Final 9/17

“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
― Maya Angelou