In my sitch... with my W... could this backfire on me by her getting more angry with me or just moving farther away from me?
Her thinking... Well that's more of the same secretive HP not including me in his life, not responding to my calls, not talking with me, ignoring me like he always does.
Please! She was the one with motives for secrecy. I just get amazed how LBH'S can get so twisted around. Sure, you can walk around on eggshells afraid you will make her angry. If you want to continue living under her manipulation, go back to how you were when you first arrived here. But if you want to live like a free individual, you won't allow her tricks to work on you.
She is always saying the two of you MUST sit down and talk. About what?
You know what it is, don't you? She is missing the "conversations" that once were available to her. That is what she wants from you. So, she will find something as her excuse.
The sooner you get a schedule made out, the better.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!