Busting this Divorce - 90 Days NC #3

[HPoirot]

One question I have... my W feels that I'm secretive and hates that. When I started GALing... she got angry once saying "You're so secretive!" I felt the need then to explain what I was doing to calm her. (I know better now.)

My mystery GALing also started her going on more GALs herself with her saying "Well I don't ask where you go," while she offered lies abut where she went (without me asking where she was going).

Now that I'm starting to GAL again, I've been telling her I have "plans" and being mysterious.

In my sitch... with my W... could this backfire on me by her getting more angry with me or just moving farther away from me?

Her thinking... Well that's more of the same secretive HP not including me in his life, not responding to my calls, not talking with me, ignoring me like he always does.

I know this works of course to make the LBS feel better and grow personally. And I know she can't move any farther away from me than she is now.

I just don't want to alienate my W any more than I already have.

Just having a moment of doubt. Thanks.