I don't think that I have posted to you before . . . sorry for just canonballing right in! I remember seeing your name here not too long after I left to take some time away from the boards. Back then, seeing all these new names and sitches just felt depressing and I didn't feel like I could offer too much in the way of help because I was still struggling myself. Now that I am divorced, done, and feel that I have come out the other side happier, I hope I can help others because lord knows I needed all the help I could get for a while.
I don't think about my M and my XH the way I used to (obsessively), but from time to time, something does pop into my head, and I think how dumb I was to have ignored those red flags. I think it's good to acknowledge that, but it doesn't help to feel stupid or be angry with yourself. Better to use that realization to make better choices in the future.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
I remember seeing your name here not too long after I left to take some time away from the boards. Back then, seeing all these new names and sitches just felt depressing and I didn't feel like I could offer too much in the way of help because I was still struggling myself. Now that I am divorced, done, and feel that I have come out the other side happier, I hope I can help others because lord knows I needed all the help I could get for a while. 