I know from my hubby's behaviour that when men feel that we are constantly complaining and critical they withdraw. Once they withdraw and start to shut down emotionally they believe they no longer have feelings because their feels are buried so deep they don't feel them. Giving him lots of space having a PMA will help. This make take some time. If you focus on talking to a IC to work on you your husband will start to see the changes from a safe distance. It will take time for him to trust you mean what you say and for him to believe things won't go back to what they were. It sounds like you both need some peace and healing in your lives. ((( hugs )))

Me 52 H 44
T9 M 5
BD 12/11 H
split 8/12
OW moved in 12/12
OW gone for good 6/14
We get closer again 9/14
SD 13 Me 4 Grown





Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.