Mza, I sense Jim is hanging on to his guilt and that is holding back his personal development a little. I believe it is not lack of insight but a will to let go of guilt.
Guilt is like a comfort blanket, we hold it tight as it gives reason and release to our anxieties. It is a rationalisation for how things are. In the same way I felt guilty about the screaming banshee within me. I felt ashamed and blamed myself, my reactions were poor, I let go of guilt because of an early post of Sandi on my sitch. I was lucky and ready. Seeking answers.
A post can release our thoughts and burdens, but if we need to keep analysing, turning it over and over then we must. There will be an ahah day and suddenly it will fall into place. We will reach a new level of understanding and be unstuck on that point. This is the same for all of us, we get stuck at a juncture and then ahah moments, we move on. We do this for each other and then a great post by a vet. Maybe by writing to another on their sitch releases for us too.
So it is. Vanilla
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
