I still wonder whether my H might be in MLC. He has done some of the classic stuff - lost a pile of weight, got some new clothes, became generally dissatisfied with life.
But he has also said to me he thinks he's been struggling with depression for the last few years. That he felt a big hole of loneliness right in the middle of his heart - not from our marriage as such but from working away and the amount of time he spent alone.
Plus he also has an OW - and he has said to me he felt some of the spark went out of ML and if became a bit 'perfunctory.'
So, I read these chapters and think - we have some of all of this...does anyone else feel this, and how do I get a bit more clarity about 'primary cause' in my own mind...or it it just time will tell?
Settled in my cosy flat for the evening now - no GAL tonight....just me, the ipad and a glass of wine ;-)
Primary cause...does it really matter? This is a life crisis, no matter what we call it.
Accept the reality of where you are, let him sort out his stuff if he's so inclined. That's the clarity.
RE-read your last sentence, what's so bad about that, huh? We so often define our lives by what's missing, rather than what we actually have.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
