Jim0987 #9 - Blackholes, cats and overanalysis

[jim0987]

she really truly believes that i have controlled and bullied her. I can see why on a number of things but SOOOOOOO much of it has been her putting the most negative interpretation on everything I do. She is filled with such resentment towards me and her sister and PF are great at validating that.

I'm going to my view, her view rant for a moment

I questioned that the joint account was overdrawn - her view is that i dont trust her

I say i'm worried there is too much furniture in the lounge but its fine to get the unit she wants - I stopped her buying things

I wasnt sure i liked the idea of a bright orange wall - I was controlling and being unreasonable

I asked to change christmas arrangements that i didnt think were agreed - I was deliberately bullying her to ruin her good mood

I want a clean break agreement so she cant chase me for money - I must be hiding something

I bought her a couple of dresses as presents that I thought she would like - I was trying to control what she wears

And god knows what it is she thinks i did to isolate her from her friends and family.

She is constantly on edge for a massive backlash from me

Having said all of that a bad old habit of mine has returned today, i do this stupid little laugh to myself things which are the result of a massive load of thinking and thoughts but they must be bloody annoying. I thought i had ditched them but they are back today. Not sure if I should acknowledge they are annoying or just stop and pretend they didnt happen today.

I think its been a big morning over telling the kids, I've not reacted well and I dont believe my wife has either. A few times she has been looking at our wedding pictures which is the first time ive noticed her do that.

I'm not sure if we could do a day in the house with all of us but the moment my wife told the kids this morning it all went to rats.