I'm sorry the holidays have been rough. Hopefully, things get a bit easier for you and that you get some help/guidance regarding your D.
I agree with Maybell. Back away from seeing your h so much. It will help you with detachment and healing. Sending you a hug!
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer