Christmas was hard. Nothing under the tree for me. Empty stocking. I'm an adult, I know but, like an idiot, I put stuff in his stocking and got him some small things to at least have something to open. He left these things behind in the house for a week before I, like an idiot, put them all in a bag and requested he take them next time he came over.
Your H makes me mad. Grrrr....
I'm sorry you are feeling lost right now. You say doing nothing feels like torture. What would you like to do? Really, deep down, what would you like to see happen here?