One thing I would like to work on is something Mozza and LaBug mentioned:
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I'm tempted to tell you what my IC told me: my controlling tendencies, my preference for things being done my way (it's better!) has paid handsomely at work, but it's a behavior that doesn't translate well in other spheres of my life. It made me critical and controlling of my W. It makes me impatient in general when things aren't as good as I can do or imagine them. What I've realized is that my goal at home is not to optimize the loading of the dishwasher or planning of the annual holidays, but to optimize my R. This means to let go of a lot of little things in order to achieve this big thing. Make my W happy and safe with me, even if it means wasting dishwashing soap or paying more for our flights. Make of that what you will, if the shoe fits.
I am struggling: I know I have the same tendencies. I tend to think that my way is better, and that I have to do everything to get it done, and not just done right, just DONE. My H procrastinates, has a bad memory and no concept of time so I just take charge to get things done.
