And don't mention any of your changes. Just let the results speak for themselves.
And don't take the temperature of your R with her. Just carry on your positive movement.
As for Grandma, it reminds me a little of how a WAW thinks - talking about things that didn't happen. Rewriting history. But not to make light of it, that's par for the course as folks age. I wish you and her all the best - I know it's hard sometimes. My W & I run a senior's home. Just have to be gentle & loving. Let them age with dignity.
But all in all, Jefe, it seems like your on the right path. May 2015 bring you and your W back together in a new marriage.
M: 59 W: 53 M: 9 yrs T: 14 yrs No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine) W moved out 11/18/2013 D-Day 12/14/2013 W moved back home 12/1/2014