I'm still around -- just nothing to update. Swimming along.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
With 5 dogs no one ever pees alone in my house. Dogs love it that your seated and unable to move such an attractive target. I have been almost pushed of the loo many times. The biatch tends to want to snuggle under your legs and lift em up. She face rubs you all over.
Good that things are getting better. Yes, If someone can be stolen out from under you then they really are worth getting bent out of shape over. My h expects me to chase him, while he spits in my face. Um no, just keep running mate.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
*being too emotionally drained to do simple tasks like showering *falling into existential crisis *crying way too much *eating my feelings *caring about people who don’t give two shits about me *wasting my days away and then feeling sad because I do nothing
It's not how I spend my time these days but I've been there and am still pulling myself out of the slump, so it was funny in a "I GET IT!" sort of way. LOL
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Just heard about a friend whose girlfriend went back to the ex husband she left four years ago and dumped him in the cold after being "so in love" with him.
Sometimes I have to wonder what people are thinking and why everyone does this stuff.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Got a bill in the mail for the same over-due gas bill I got last month. I was under the impression I had changed that to BF's name, so I texted him and told him to fix it, pronto.
After some investigation on both our parts, it turns out they sent me the bill in error and the account under my name is at 0.00 and is closed. I was polite with him the whole time, and thanked him for is attention to the matter.
He was responsive to my problem, at least. Every time I sent a response back to him this morning, I wanted to include "....you F*&^ING F*&^%ER!!!" with it.
I guess I'm still upset. It's the betrayal factor. I dislike that -- despite the flaws we had as a couple -- I loved so deeply and got f*&^%ed over because he's got some serious issues of his own going on. Normal people don't destroy other people. It's possible to exit a relationship without doing shitty things to someone. It burns and leaves a foul taste in my mouth.
Despite my efforts to be zen, compassionate, and forgiving, I'm disgusted someone I (still) care about is capable of these actions.
I'll get over it, but that's where I am today. I've got a lot of work to do within myself. Baby steps.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Also: having a hard time with how you spend 10 years with someone as a part of your daily life and then one day you split and insert a new person into their spot and pretend the previous person never existed.
Yes -- he had plenty of time to mentally do the detaching he needed to do to get there, which I was not involved in until the bomb dropped.
It's still bullsh*t.
Sorry, journaling and feeling bratty, today. These are things I've said/felt before.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Also: having a hard time with how you spend 10 years with someone as a part of your daily life and then one day you split and insert a new person into their spot and pretend the previous person never existed.
Yes -- he had plenty of time to mentally do the detaching he needed to do to get there, which I was not involved in until the bomb dropped.
Same here... She left 9.5 years together, 4.5 of marriage, two kids after meeting someone a month earlier. She replaced me in that spot thoroughly, doing just about the same things we were doing. As if I was an old part due for replacement with a newer one. It's really hard to fathom. As you said, she detached long before this, but still.
I'm texting back and forth with her about the kids and I have the urge to tell her "I'm still heartbroken." Oh, I won't. But the urge is there. It's so hard to hide all of this from her. I fear she thinks I moved on quickly, proving that we were done or never loved each other much (she said so to explain why my friends didn't contact her). I'll say it here: I'm still heartbroken.
Let's hang in there. Time, time, time... Hope your anger helps you through the days.
(and congrats on dealing with the bills cordially)
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
