I think Mozza said it but I guess it could be expanded on-

optimize my R. This means to let go of a lot of little things in order to achieve this big thing. Make my W happy and safe with me, even if it means wasting dishwashing soap or paying more for our flights. Make of that what you will, if the shoe fits.

I changed it a bit to reflect my belief that we can't make anyone happy but we can respect their POV just as we want others to respect ours.

I try to keep in mind, Is what I'm doing right for the R or is it right for me and my ego?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss