a young marriage in trouble

[lnlyshp]

mahhhhty my man, great to hear from you again. Thanks for the advice. I gotta catch up on your sich as well.

"Forever is a long time." I chose this mantra because, although she is firm on no reconciliation now, her feelings may change in the future. The idea that we will never be together again is one that I obviously have trouble accepting, so I tell myself that just because things are bad now, it doesn't mean that they will be this way forever.

I go back and forth on detachment. Some days I feel that I'm doing well and beginning to "let her go", other days like today, I wake up incredibly depressed because I know we will be trading S and I don't look forward to those meetings anymore.

However, things changed over time and I showed her a glimpse into her future and reinforced that this was the right decision. I no longer give her any ammo for that frame of mind. I focus on the process not the outcome.

Can you explain a little bit more what you mean by this? By "right decision", you're talking about getting married, correct? What frame of mind did you stop giving ammo for?

- lonelyship