We have been married for 11.5 years. Been together for 20. High school sweet hearts. We have three kids 8, 7 and 2. After the 2 year old, my wife became a stay at home mom and we both basically moved into "roommate mode". All we talked about was the kids, the house, etc. I also travel a fair amount for work and pushed all domestic issues on to my wife. Sex was a point of contention. She would use sex to make me happy, then feel bad about herself for doing so. In July, we closed her business(which she was barely involved in after the 2 year old) and she went back to school. While back at school, she met a guy and started an emotional affair that has only recently ended. Her ambivalence and focus on ending the marriage and my reaction to it, despite deciding to try to make things work has driven a bigger wedge between us.
