I am more than convinced that grief may play an element here, but of course I only know what you write plus my own personal experience which may add a slant that isn't present in your sitch. H1 and I had similar issues but H1 wanted children. I needed to protect myself from further grief, but H1 was a wise man, he said "V, we can leave further attempts for children for us, there is time, but can we consider fostering? We can share our love that way".
V agreed, and our wonderful sex life restarted, it wasn't that I didn't love H1 it was that I needed to protect myself from further hurt and grief and did not want to find myself accidentally pregnant.
Do you think there might be an element of this self protection in your H? Care and gentleness Vanilla
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
