Rzr,

That is awesome that your W is noticing your changes and more importantly slowly regaining her faith that they will stick.

My W has also noticed my changes but unfortunately is not at the moment regaining her faith.

She was upset every time SHE brought up my changes and spewed about how I was trying to be better than everyone and I was throwing it all in her face. I tried to validate but to no avail.

Then she decided it was time for her to move out and now she doesn't see that I am still changing and becoming that man or even better than that man she M. That is the frustrating part. The WAS removes themselves from a situation that they think is toxic when in reality it is getting better. In their minds they have to leave to keep justifying their unwillingness to try.

All of this is their choice of course but it still stinks.

Me 47/W 34
T 16 M 13
No kids
BD 6/2013
W asked that I move out 6/2013
I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013
separate beds not much talking
Served D Complaint 5/2014
W moved out 9/27/2014