a young marriage in trouble

[mahhhty]

lnlyshp - It's been awhile. I tried to catch up on your story. May 2015 bring you all that you seek!!!

My mantra throughout has been "Forever is a long time."

I'm interested... Why did you choose this mantra? Why does this speak to you?

Texted "thank you for dropping him off. sorry, i didn't mean to upset you." She responded "yep". She explained that she was worried I had got into a car crash or something and the way I joked made her upset. I mean, I get that I came off as rude but its not like I was being intentionally mean to her (like she is to me).

Are you detaching? How do you think you're doing?

I don't want to give up but I'm getting really sick of being treated like I'm the worst person on the earth. I realize I can't change her attitude, but I'm still having trouble detaching and not hanging on every one of her words and feelings.

I think DB & DR both talk to this point. I definitely have felt this way. I made a promise to myself, that it isn't over until I want it to be. In other words, hope is mine to let go or to hang on. Your child will be happier with Mom and Dad under the same roof in a happy, compassionate, respectful relationship. Something I had to think about is that my W loved me enough to marry me, and what we had was no mistake. However, things changed over time and I showed her a glimpse into her future and reinforced that this was the right decision. I no longer give her any ammo for that frame of mind. I focus on the process not the outcome.

I hope some of this is applicable for you.