Well, H just texted me that he filed today. More specifically, he said "FYI - I did go ahead and file today." FYI, like it's just some small thing to keep me in the loop about. I thought I was mentally prepared for this but it still put me into "fight or flight" mode. When I saw my phone light up and the text notification I thought that might be it, now that the holidays are over. I just checked our state's public records website and it's already in there for anyone who wants to see. Gross. He also apologized but I'm not exactly sure for what because there were some typos - "I apologize for having to or you through all of this." For having me go through all of this? I don't know. I don't really want to accept that apology right now.
Do I have to respond or acknowledge that I got his text? I don't really want to. Going darker than dark now. He was on my snapchat list and I saw that he was looking at all my stories, I'm taking him off. Time to really work on that letting go. Trying to think about some of the good things about this (finally some closure, not having to worry about whether the house is being paid for, only having to worry about how to do taxes this year) and remind myself the R itself was already over anyway.
Me:30 H:29, no kids T:12, M:4 (when D was final) 12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore" 6/14: Separated (I move) 1/15: H filed for D 5/15: D final