Nothing is going on with OW, emotional or otherwise. Our torrid A has consisted of a few conversations in public venues. There's obvious attraction and chemistry, but nothing else. I've made a point of not swinging by her cubicle to talk, keeping things to a quick "Hi" in the halls. I was up front about being married. I actually feel a little silly at how much of an effect she had on me.
I didn't mean to imply you were having an A with her, but by your own description it could be an A waiting to happen. Whenever there is "obvious attraction and chemistry" you should continue to avoid having any more conversations......period. The fact she had such an effect on you is a warning of how vulnerable you can be to acting on it further.
I believe most WAS thinks it is so much easier to have a new relationship than putting in the hard work to restore the old one.
Oh, I know good and well that there was high potential for an A. I was able to stop things before they got too far. We say "Hi" passing in the halls. That's it. There was never any communication outside of work, so nothing to stop there.
I know I sound like an idiot to others on this board who's sitches are much worse than mine. Hell, I feel like an idiot. I know these are simply emotions and they'll pass....so I whine here. I had faith that my W and I were on a good trajectory, I just didn't expect the reaction I had.
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
