I just want to know what happened? What happened to stop the guy he was the last few months to now. they are so opposite each other it's insane.
Based on the posts here on the board, it seems that most men are driven to win the female. Before M he pursues the woman, and after a breakup he pursues her. However, right after M his focus goes from her onto other things, and when he wins her back after a breakup he does the same pattern. We women are troubled and hurt b/c he changes once he has us. Truth be known, I think we do too.
IMHO, your H wanted to by-pass the uncomfortable work that needed to be done, and he just wanted to settle back into the family again. And I agree that it all was too fast.
I believe it is extremely important to get professional guidance when piecing the M back together. Even if he feels uncomfortable, he should be willing to do it for the sake of the M....and to help you. How much longer till MC app't?
Do you think he may be placing too much pressure or expectation on himself? Would he be open and tell you if he was?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
