Let's try this again

[Train]

Aw, sweetie. I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I FEEL you. Big time. I really do. (P.S. I just saw woundedfool's response, and I agree with him; that's all great advice.)

I can only speak from my own experience, T0, but during the times when I start feeling unattractive and unwanted during piecing, I - yes - communicate my needs to my H. But I also take a page from the DB playbook and remember that I am in charge of my own feelings. In other words, do something for you to make yourself feel better. Clearly, you know the boundaries around that; it's not exactly like your GALing in your DB days. But it's sort of the same. Do something to help your own outlook on things. Communicate with H as soon as you can. And when you communicate with him, make sure you're remaining positive and CONFIDENT. "Act as if" he's totally going to be willing to give you what you say you need.

Stay positive, girl. Fake it if you have to until you can sit down with H with no distractions.

I'm thankful you are also being empathetic to some of his feelings with work and bills, too. That's good. But I know he can handle work AND working on his M. I KNOW he can.