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Hi ggrass, never got slapped as a kid but my grandmother stuck a fork in my hand for reaching across a dining table among other fun things she and grandfather did (they lived with us from when I was 5 and I hated it).

You've got some real cr@p you're dealing with but you are dealing with it and I think you're right that whatever scripts are being pushed your way are not the actions you need to follow. The real challenge (for me) is then knowing which ones to go for in the absense of following established patterns.

From everything you've written here id be scared and horrified at some of the behaviour you've experienced and you're still moving forward, you're one extremely strong person gg and all I can say is I'm really sorry you find yourself in this position.

We're all here for you, take care.