Jim0987 #9 - Blackholes, cats and overanalysis

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Thanks mate you too.

I can see it in your posts that you're at the beginning of it, as I said to you and v I really admire anyone doing in house sep, bad enough when I did it at "our" flat by myself!

You're exactly right above, it means its new year, I've joined 4 gyms or so in January and gone on diets that died by February or until I killed the membership. Maybe means more maybe not, "detune" your antenna on it is my best advice.

Sooner or later something, maybe tangential to r, will pop up and your mind set will alter. What happened to me ironocally when mil spewed a poisoned pen letter - well cleaning invoice re the flat - started playback on my old behaviour got angry, then stopped stepped away, playback started again and I emailed w asking was this how I really deserved to be treated.....then...... Stopped. No idea why. Backpedaled and the email became this was not w's problem (she had been copied in on it) I calmly emailed mil saying when I've been paid and have the money I'll settle the invoice and dropped it. I know mil will crow to w that she "solved" the problem. I simply don't care anymore, that's now w's problem to handle her NARC/sociopath mother not mine. Same night I got my ring off which took some doing after 13 years. I quietly put it in the kitchen drawer where it is now. If w and I reconcile she can put it back on me if not it will stay with me but not on me.

Since then....different days.

I haven't given up, I miss w, I miss being a partnership but w backed out on that a while back and I can't operate by "hoping" she changes her mind every day. If she does and will work on it with me fantastic and the greatest day since s was born if not I'll continue day by day building this new life, mk 3 me

Hang on in there mate!