Jim0987 #9 - Blackholes, cats and overanalysis

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Hi Jim

First happy 2015 and I too hope we find the outcomes that are best for our happiness in the year or at least as soon as it can be..

You know the time of it I've had with getting to where I am right now so take this for what it's worth but be careful with the mind reading, I can see the work you're doing on that and I know it (and detachment in general) is a horribly difficult task but ...

she is finally doing the stuff she needs to do to make herself happy but it will add to her narrative that it was me making her sad.

You really dont know that, it may well do so but theres nothing you can do in any case and its not going to do anything for your detatchment, lifting your soul or your pma. Also and again from experience, the past is done 2014,2013 etc its done, finished nothing you or i can do to change one event so dont focus your energy there, focus it now. If you needed to apologise and then move on, dont live there. I apologised to both w and s early on and then carried on with my 180 actions which are begining to be engrained, I'm sure you'll get there too.

And with that I put away my small, padded, fluffy 2x4 just out to be helpful there

I know I sound like a broken record but when you get your own space it will help, honestly, from someone who was ready to curl in a ball and wish the world away most days,most, are so much better. I miss w, still love her, still wish she and s would choose to reconcile but don't make every day about wishing that I hope that's detachment in motion or at least my version of it. You'll get there, don't fear it or fight it, it doesn't mean giving up but I'm not sure anyone can move on, reconcile or not, without getting rid of that dispair first.

Wow that went deep quickly

Take it easy matey, hope the foot feels better.