Hi Betsey. I am feeling very much like you, Mer and Pattie these days. Hence, the lack of posting on my thread. I don't have the energy to rehash the frustration.
I for one don't think that a R talk would be terribly bad. I think letting him in on your internal timeframe would be a BAD idea, but having an R talk would give him sufficient clues that the winds of change are blowing for you these days.
I am soooo cynical. Getting screwed even a little in a D after all the work I've done is what keeps me from just telling H that May is it homey. Piss or get off the pot. In honesty though I also don't want to say something that I can't back up come May. sigh.
As far as male companionship is concerned. I had to fend off some major ego boosting behavior this weekend and it was HARD! This guy didn't hold a candle to H, but he was saying ALL the right things, etc. It makes me resent H all that much more that he can just deny me any emotional fulfillment. So I understand what you are saying in that department and I think that your abstinence gets you immediate entry to Heaven (like that wasn't a given )
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