moving on

[Ahoy]

Just back from visiting family in home state, reconnecting with friends, looking at neighborhoods to move to. Working with H to get his financial info to proceed with the dissolution. To those who are struggling to keep their marriages to people who cheat, lie, betray, and emotionally abuse them, I want to say this: it may not be worth it in the long run. It's a gamble either way, but I have come to the conclusion that I am happier on my own than with H. Whereas reconciling with him MIGHT lead to a happy future (not that he's asking for reconciliation), I KNOW I can provide myself with a happy future, not dependent on another person. If I happen to find a new partner in the future, then great, but I will proceed differently and probably always maintain my independence to some degree. Not out of fear but out to preserve my sense of self, and self-worth. The right person will understand that. And if I end up alone, my life will still have meaning and value.