Jim0987 #9 - Blackholes, cats and overanalysis

[jim0987]

So the ups and downs of in house seperation continue

MIL went home this morning - again i was friendly and warm towards her if a little more aloof than usual.

I had the kids all day which is always good. we went out for a walk (as far as my foot would allow) and fed lots of ducks - left before MIL so that W and MIL could have a private goodbye. we had a good lunch and played round the house all afternoon.

W has started a new diet and joined a gym - this will be good for her happiness in general, though i had a brief sad reaction to this because again it reminded me that she is finally doing the stuff she needs to do to make herself happy but it will add to her narrative that it was me making her sad.

She was out all afternoon (no idea where) but came back tired.

we then had a friendly couple of hours with the kids. and she opened up a bit about being glad her mum had gone because she was annoying my W. apprarently she is 'just so negative about everything'. I validated and spoke positively about her mum

Generally i was happy and upbeat. Wife went straight to her room as soon as the kids were in bed which is normal stuff.

To me it seemed like a good interaction and as much as though I have read a bunch into it (good and bad) i'm trying to dismiss all that and just let it be.

and i'm feeling pretty relaxed about that right now.

Just to update on another thing that was discussed at length. I've today sent my solicitor an email setting our my position on pretty much everything and then next we will work out the legalities of all that.