WAW Won't Communicate (2) - new year, new thread

[okjpc]

Still no contact w/my WAW since Nov. 3. Haven't seen or spoken to her in person since Oct. 3. I've had a lot of emotional ups and downs since then and the DB forum, the books and coaching have helped a great deal. Still working on GAL activities.

The number one thing that has helped is to take risks and open up to friends (about my sitch) and new people (for friendship and connection). A good friend of mine lost his W three years ago to a shockingly brief illness - he called me today. We hadn't spoken since my W first moved out. It was so helpful to talk about grief, the challenges of emoting and dealing with pain in healthy and productive ways. Before the S, I was pretty guarded. Now I'm finding that the more I open up to people, the more normal I feel.

I don't know if I can really gauge my success at detaching. The past couple of days it feels more like an acceptance that the R is over. But I am feeling like there will a life, a good life on the back end of this process.

I have a job interview with my company in a neighboring state (my home state) on Tuesday. If I get the job that will force some big decisions, but I'm looking forward to having more opportunities.