Let's try this again

[woundedfool]

I just want to feel important and like I matter.

I want him to go back to the man he was for the last few months that seems to have disappeared these last few weeks.

I know he is stressed about work.

He tends to coil up in a corner when he's stressed ... This is how we got to BD and OW before because he was stressed and I was quiet and short about his lack of attention and when I thought we were happy it only took a couple weeks for our world to be turned upside down

I just get very anxious that he's thinking about OW or just not going to come home again because last time I had no warning (heIl we slept together the day before!).

So now when I see him on his phone texting it stresses me out and my tension rises which probably changes how I communicate with him.

I guess I just feel like we are in a similar situation as him being stressed and now he's not acting towards me the way he is.

When I bring up to him that he seems distant and isn't very affectionate towards me his answer his he's stressed. Just not sure how to handle that. I did tell him I need him to be more affectionate to me and I need him to show me im important to him like he used to.

I think you should address each of these with the MC.

Don't talk in the terms of what had happened (other then the "stressed" comment). Talk about future behaviors and goals. I say that in the context: some worry about counseling becomeing a referee's judgement. Share your concerns, and hopefully he/she can give you both some tools to help.