I want to tell him he eter fix it now. Im so upset that I am in this predicament. How about I go have sex with somebody
Me:34/EXH:29 Kids: S13, D5, D4 M/o7 HaskedforDgavetohim6/14 decided to work on get remarried counseling. Kids work went back to old routine. Left Nov 10 2014 OWDec92014
I sent a text :Im so pissed right now. How dare u even think I wanna touch it...
Omg Im going down a bad road please any advice?????
Me:34/EXH:29 Kids: S13, D5, D4 M/o7 HaskedforDgavetohim6/14 decided to work on get remarried counseling. Kids work went back to old routine. Left Nov 10 2014 OWDec92014
My H wanted the same thing - said he had "low self control at the moment." I just calmly told him that he and I will not have a romantic or sexual relationship whilst he is involved with someone else.
Just state your boundary and stick with it.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Me:34/EXH:29 Kids: S13, D5, D4 M/o7 HaskedforDgavetohim6/14 decided to work on get remarried counseling. Kids work went back to old routine. Left Nov 10 2014 OWDec92014
Omg this is rough. I have now got off the ride...He is getting the drift very quick. Geesh this has been rough. I new today would be a calm day boy was I wrong. I have to run tonight after work because this day has been full of surprises. Well I have to focus on me because this can move unexpectingly quickly.
Trying to get the kids situated has been very difficult as well need to focus on those issues first.
The OW told my exh that my 4 year old said to her. "I dont like you your not my mommy" I am very upset I told him he should not have had the kids so soon around this female and now Im at the point I wanna do something drastic.
Me:34/EXH:29 Kids: S13, D5, D4 M/o7 HaskedforDgavetohim6/14 decided to work on get remarried counseling. Kids work went back to old routine. Left Nov 10 2014 OWDec92014
I know how hard it is that your H has suggested being physical with you. On one hand it's tempting to want to feel close again, on the other it's insulting and making you feel like you are worthless.
My H is not involved in a relationship (that I know about) but I have been sleeping with him. And let me tell you, it's hard. Very hard. In the beginning I thought that I could be intimate with him and still detach, but I am learning that is seemingly impossible. No matter how much I fool myself into thinking that I can do both, I know I can't. With sex comes expectations, and as you can see, we are taught to have none.
On NYE my H came over with D papers. He was serving me. And yet, I still had sex with him. It was passionate, beautiful, and sad all at once. But it also was completely wrong. I have struggled all day today with feeling like scum. Lower than scum.
My advice to you-- ignore his advances. Don't react with anger, but just brush them aside. Yes, it is disrespectful that he is even suggesting something like this while OW is involved. But he is not thinking clearly, is he... You have to be the one who does that.
Use his longing for you to YOUR advantage. He wants you. You know that. Don't give in, but take it for what it is-- you are still attractive and beautiful in his eyes and he is finding it hard to resist you. If your H does not recommit to your M, others will find you attractive and beautiful too.
Hang in there. It's a sh*tty place to bed. It literally can take our breath away. I am in so much pain I honestly don't know how I will make it from one day to the next. But still I do...
Best of luck to you.
Me 26 ; H 26 S 8 Married less than a year Bomb 9/15/14 H moves out 9/15/14 H Files 11/21/14 Served D papers 12/31/14
This has definitely been a tough day. Its so hard I wanna just make everyone happy. Including him. We just got into a fight and I was screaming he was also. He is at a cross roads I think. He wants me to understand that he is in a relationship and he wants me to acknowledge it I told him I do and Im happy for him. He acts like everything is fine with the kids but he brang up the issue about the ow and Im the bad person now and I didnt even do anything. The problem happened when my daughter said she did not like her. I would never tell my daughter to say anything but some how Im at fault and I dont except him and his ow UH I do. I dont like it but what does he want from me. Oh yea to have sex with me and have his new relationship too.
Me:34/EXH:29 Kids: S13, D5, D4 M/o7 HaskedforDgavetohim6/14 decided to work on get remarried counseling. Kids work went back to old routine. Left Nov 10 2014 OWDec92014
I just want him to be happy. If I take myself out the equation he can be. Can someone tell me how can I do more to detach? I see that he is struggling. Maybe I should tell him Im truly done and then I wont be an option because I hate to see him like this
Me:34/EXH:29 Kids: S13, D5, D4 M/o7 HaskedforDgavetohim6/14 decided to work on get remarried counseling. Kids work went back to old routine. Left Nov 10 2014 OWDec92014
I need helping regrouping because because I let myself get on his roller coaster and now Im not sure what to do
Me:34/EXH:29 Kids: S13, D5, D4 M/o7 HaskedforDgavetohim6/14 decided to work on get remarried counseling. Kids work went back to old routine. Left Nov 10 2014 OWDec92014
