I did the polar bear swim on new years day in 40 degree water when it was below freezing out and I thought of you and your icy showers! Wow that really gets the adrenaline pumping. Maybe I should start doing it myself but I do love my hot showers.
Thanks for posting that stuff from "Greg". Really good stuff. Also, you are doing great, keep it up. I too have been working on detaching and now am considering being friendly and supportive. Showing empathy instead of defensive anger. I think it is better for my soul.
Good luck to us!
Hugs, Lisa
Oh and PS don't give the computer to your son to let your wife see it. Bad idea. The keystroke recorder will only hurt you. Don't do it!
