... When I see her now I swear I feel nothing. I believe I should *at least* feel some jealousy knowing what she's doing but I don't. Nothing, nada, zero, and zilch. I don't have any attraction to her now and I feel great about this!
For me, attraction has always been based on personality and a connection built from there. Beauty has always come after that. Now I feel my wife is not attractive to me because she has become a person of different moral fiber with the decisions she has made with our marriage, our family and the turmoil she is causing in another marriage and family. ...
So, THE QUESTION FOR THE GROUP is this -- how, in everything that seems reasonable, would I ever want to date a person that I had find so unattractive? Does anyone else feel, or has ever, felt this way?
Happy New Year to you luvmypg,
You are filled with questions to start the New Year, aren't you? It's interesting that you don't feel jealousy or any more attraction to your WAW based upon her actions. How are you doing with forgiving her?
On your question on whether or not I could date someone that I now see as so unattractive based upon her actions, I disagree. My W is dating other men, with which I disagree, and it has hurt our family. But there is an essence of her that I still feel that binds us together, besides the fact that she is the mother of our children. I don't know if we could ever get back together, but I am still interested to find out. Which is why I am here.
It's interesting that you don't feel jealousy or any more attraction to your WAW based upon her actions. How are you doing with forgiving her?