No changes and my WAW continues to follow 'the script' almost like she is reading it as she goes. Probably the best thing that happened to me, so far, is learning about the WAS / WAW patterns and understanding how she feels rather than only to focusing on me. Thanks to all -- very enlightening.
An update from me and where I am -- I look back at the advice I got from 'sandi2' about three weeks ago and it really opened my eyes, more and more everyday, too.
With that, the last few weeks I have been convinced that I do NOT want to reconcile with my WAW, even it were to happen. Looking back on the advice (from Sandi2) the wife I knew and loved is long gone. This is a new person with a different soul. When I see her now I swear I feel nothing. I believe I should *at least* feel some jealousy knowing what she's doing but I don't. Nothing, nada, zero, and zilch. I don't have any attraction to her now and I feel great about this!
For me, attraction has always been based on personality and a connection built from there. Beauty has always come after that. Now I feel my wife is not attractive to me because she has become a person of different moral fiber with the decisions she has made with our marriage, our family and the turmoil she is causing in another marriage and family. This is the LEAST attractive trait a person can have in my forty-four years and primarily why I am not, nor have never been attracted to people like this. The advice I have been given is (that) once you try to reconcile, you are essentially starting all over again and dating a new person and this makes a lot of sense to me.
So, THE QUESTION FOR THE GROUP is this -- how, in everything that seems reasonable, would I ever want to date a person that I had find so unattractive? Does anyone else feel, or has ever, felt this way?
Happy New Year -- and thank you for the continued support!!
