Mozza (6) + List of success stories

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Mozza, I'm not sure if you saw what I wrote in Maybell's thread. Here it is:

Maybell, I know we hate 2014 right, but I think at some point in our life, we will look back on this time and think of this year like this:

- I learned more about myself, marriage, love, struggle, self-worth, my beliefs that year than any other
- I developed an appreciation for the most important things in life like I never had before
- I proved to myself that I can survive anything
- I stood for my values and beliefs, for better or WORSE
- It was the beginning of the rest of my life
- It was when I avoided (not by my choice) spending the rest of my life in a dead marriage. maybe we'll get the chance to repair it as a new marriage. Maybe not. But if you ask me, either option (restored M or an end to the M) is better than stagnation and misery. Of course true reconciliation is ideal, but it's not totally up to us

As much as it hurts now, someday you will look back on this year and be glad the veil was pulled back on your M problems, and you'll be especially glad that you DB'd (for your own sake as well as your M) so as not to waste the pain. I've heard M's can end in one of three ways: withdrawal, divorce or thriving maturation. Divorce, if it goes that route, is awful. But it does at least lead to new beginnings, whether it's a new M with our WAS, a new, healthier R with a new SO, or some other exciting new beginning. But take it from a child of a withdrawn M, whose parents didn't sleep in the same bed for the last 20 years of their M, didn't love each other, didn't take care of each other, didn't so much as hug or kiss for 20 years until my dad passed 3 years ago...withdrawal is much worse. It's impossible for you to feel this way while you're mourning your M, but you should reflect on this thought someday and be thankful you did not go that route.

Mozza, I believe you have a thriving future ahead of you, whether it's with your WAW, someone new, or a new adventure altogether. You have been a major bright spot for me in the last few weeks. If you can live out the man that is on these boards, you will thrive someday. And someday you might see 2014 as the most important year of your life.