Try to take the focus off him. As long as it's on him, you will drive yourself batty. Focus on changes and things that make your life rich and rewarding.
Thanks GB, I know this is what I need, just have not been able to figure out quite how to do that! sigh. I do have plans to really focus on eating right and working out as well as possibly picking up a part time job. I am going to find some fun races/obstacle races to do as well.
I am also going to TRY not to assume everytime he is texting it is OW...also difficult.
On a positive note I was able to support and encourage him today. He has talked for many years about restoring an old jeep/car. We saw one today and stopped on the way home to look at it. When we got home his wheels were turning, we talked about it, before giving my opinion I did ask if he wanted to hear it. He ended up going and buying it. I continued to be supportive and watched videos on restoring jeeps and looked at pictures.
I also have a chance for a 180, he needs room in the garage and there is tons of stuff in boxes as well as furniture as D13s team is supposed to be having a garage sale. He made a comment that we will fight about it. I have an opportunity to take care of it and make room in the garage for him.
Also, he made the comment about me not expecting it to be finished (and out of the garage) in a month. Sounds like he has no plans on moving out anytime soon.
If I'm being honest, I do feel some resentment about the financial part of this decision. He's able to go write a check for $3k without a thought but most $$ I have is strictly for bills, household things and the kids. Found some cute things for the house yesterday (talking less than $100) but couldn't buy them because I don't have extra money....sigh.
Me-44 (45) H- 50 (51) M-'96
S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)
BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas) home Oct(sep rooms) (EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed) insists wants D through July 2015 no more talk of D since
