I know forgiveness is supposed to be a "gift you give yourself" but how do I forgive his ongoing relationship? Although in his mind he is single... I'm really struggling with this, I feel it physically, I feel so heated (literally) quite often lately. I want to be able to detach but living together is making this extremely difficult.

Me-44 (45)
H- 50 (51)
M-'96

S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)

BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas)
home Oct(sep rooms)
(EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed)
insists wants D through July 2015
no more talk of D since