They're wasted because they can't be enjoyed or appreciated anymore, but it's not like I can give them to the thrift store or sell them on craigslist or otherwise repurpose them. Pictures, personalized things, "1st Christmas" ornaments, etc... I really don't know what to do with them besides throw them away or put them out of sight in a box. So they're out of sight in a box right now. I know that people aren't looking down on me for it, so why seeing those items is depressing is because it reminds me of what was and not what is. It kind of goes with my thoughts lately of wanting to run away and move somewhere like a different start and start over, where no one knows me and no one knows I was M. If I look at those things and think "well, those were still good times, it was nice to be M for the time we were, etc." then it makes me miss it all again and doesn't help me move forward. Right now, at least, the only way I can handle it is to not see any reminders of H or my M.
Emotional boundaries.. can you give an example?
Me:30 H:29, no kids T:12, M:4 (when D was final) 12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore" 6/14: Separated (I move) 1/15: H filed for D 5/15: D final
