^^^^^^^^ This. What is past is past and has gone by, the future is yet to be determined, you need to live in the NOW and do things for you and your benefit. 2014 has been a start of great learning for many of us and personally I would not want to be reverted into the former self.
Just today W called me and asked me in tears why I would ever want her back. And the funny thing is I did not have the heart to answer her that I did not want her back...
