This is a really tricky situation because as you guys are reading this...my boundary is essentially: "If you stay at OM place, I won't support you financially. If you get your own place, I am willing to help you out."
Here's the thing as I have mentioned already. The Army REQUIRES me to give her $. Technically even if she stays at OM place, I am supposed to give her $. But I won't, because again, it makes no sense.
Why would you set a boundary that you can't keep? If the military requires it, won't that over-ride your preferences?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
